Any couple that hasn’t been together that long on Valentine’s day as asked themselves this question: how much are they going to get me? You don’t want to be that guy who totally goes all out over a small event. Or maybe you and she have been together for three months, six months, or a year, and you’re just not feeling super hot about it anymore. You pick her out a nice gift, and then when you swap she’s holding a love trinket while you’ve struck gold. How can you handle a situation like that with aplomb?
Blame Shipping Delays
If there’s one thing she should be able to understand, it’s that men procrastinate. You got her a really great gift, and you thought that it was going to be there in time. So you just picked something up for her locally so you wouldn’t show up empty handed. Boy, is your face red. But when it gets here, you’re going to throw her a dinner that’s just as romantic as the one you’re having right now. Just to make it up to her. She might see through this and she might not, but either way you have time to go home and order her something nicer. When it does arrive, make sure that you apologize a few more times. Maybe throw in a short rant about the post office, just to really sell that this wasn’t your fault.
Blame a Misunderstanding
She can’t blame you if you were trying to do the right thing. If you can’t blame shipping, say that you thought this anniversary/Valentine’s day wasn’t going to be that big of a deal. You two already see each other all the time, you already make it clear how you feel, so what does a date matter? You’re really sorry (yeah, apologizing is the key to both these things. It’s what women want to hear, so just learn to mouth it early and often for the best results.) You didn’t mean to hurt her, it just never occurred to you that this would matter so much. It’s just a big, commercial holiday… but if she really wants, you’ll do something truly romantic with her soon. Then set out the tea lights and whip up a bubble bath for some homemade romance.
Take It as a Sign You Should End Things
Finally, if this keeps on happening to you she’s clearly feeling the relationship a lot more than you are. If this is a consistent thing, she’s probably desperate. She will keep on believing that the relationship will have matured when it simply hasn’t. If you both want different things then you’re not doing yourself any long term favors by sticking with her. This isn’t the go to way to tell if you should break up, but it is a great way to see if the two of you are in sync. If you keep missing this mark, something’s wrong.