Trying to meet and date women by picking them up in bars or any other crowded public setting can be a difficult and daunting process, especially when the woman you’re talking to snubs you for seemingly no reason. Women can be difficult to read at the best of times, but if you know how to read her body language you may find yourself having a much easier time knowing how to proceed. Most times, women choose not to vocalize what they’re actually thinking, but it’s much harder for them to disguise their body language. If you can recognize common body language, you should have a better chance of picking women up or knowing when to cut your losses and move on.
Signs of Interest Before Conversation
You might want to know which women you should approach to begin with, and while this can be a bit difficult it can also greatly accelerate your process of talking to women if you know what to look for. Look out for women who are looking over at you. If they are interested in you, they’ll let you catch them looking and will hold eye contact with you across the room, probably smiling a bit. If they look away immediately, then chances are they aren’t interested. A woman who is sitting with a relaxed, confident posture who meets your eyes is probably highly interested.
Closed Body Language is a Bad Sign
Closed body language usually occurs when someone is uncomfortable with the person they are talking to, so if you see a woman displaying closed body posture, you may want to move along to someone else or ease up on your flirting. Closed body language is usually fairly obvious. The most common type is if a woman has her arms crossed. This may be less common in a bar, especially if she’s holding a drink, but crossed arms signify her closing herself off to you. A woman with crossed arms is most likely not comfortable with her surroundings and not receptive to being talked to, so you will want to choose someone else to approach. If she is fidgeting quite a bit or looking away from you very often, chances are that she is uncomfortable with the situation and is looking for a way to leave.
Watch for Signs of Preening
You’ve probably noticed women playing with their hair while they talk to you, or messing around with their clothes or jewelry. If a woman is gently running her fingers through her hair, chances are that she is highly interested in you. Likewise, if a woman is fiddling with her necklace, bracelet, or earrings, she is likely attracted to you and trying to draw attention to her body. These may be nervous habits that appear more often when she is excited, which is a key sign of interest. Remember that almost all of these signs are not conscious actions, so if you see a woman doing one of them you can know for sure that you’re on the right path.