The dating world can be more foreign than Mars, and navigating it is hard for any guy. But when you’re a shy guy, you have to deal with the added fear of talking to women. Most shy men have a difficult time keeping conversations up and putting themselves out there at first. It happens for a ton of different reasons so there’s not really a catch-all cure for the shy. There are some awesome date ideas that can help ease the nerves, though.
Mini golf is a great date idea in general, but when you’re feeling shy it’s an easy way to go do something that’s fun and easy. You’ll be moving around a lot and obviously putting golf balls on a tiny course. That means that you won’t have to make a ton of conversation. Talk about the lame buildings and fake ponds along the course and maybe throw in some competitive banter back and forth. She’ll like it and you’ll have a very relaxed date.
Pick a local comedy club and take your date there. While you’re waiting for the show to start it might feel a little weird, but once the comedian comes out and starts telling their jokes it’s going to be a world of difference. The two of you can sit there comfortably next to each other and have any tension relieved by the laughter. Plus most clubs have drinks and appetizers for order. Get one each and enjoy the night together.
Heading to an aquarium on your date is the way to go if you aren’t good at coming up with conversation. All of the different exhibits and colorful fish will be your topics. Since these places are built to be self touring you have all the time you want just to wander around and look at everything. Towards the end there’s always some sort of gift shop. Stop in and keep an eye on what she’s looking at. Picking it up and buying it for her will win you nice guy points and give her something to remember the date by.
To the Theater
Not the movie theaters, the actual live performance ones. While movies absolutely can be great for a shy dater, the theater makes your date just a little bit more unique. Sitting and watching actors who have been studying for months perform something that they love will be far more entertaining than those on the big screen getting paid. After you’ve watched the whole thing you can do a meet and greet with the actors if you want. Plus you’ll have a nice conversation piece for coffee afterwards.
Take a Class
Taking a class together can be a fun yet structured date. The teacher will be there to help the two of you doing whatever it is (cooking, pottery, painting, etc.) so you won’t need to be self motivated to find something to do. Then hopefully you’ll be able to laugh and work together through the date.