There are some rather obvious perks to hooking up with a desperate woman. She wants your attention so badly that she’ll do anything to get it. The best part is, usually the flaw she’s so desperate to make up for isn’t even that bad. Even if she’s not as desperate as a woman who used to be fat, if you can detect the traces of desperation early in your interactions you can formulate a game plan. You want to cash in on her neediness without tripping over into any crazy entanglements.
Uses a Lot of Emoticons
One or two emoticons are no big deal. This is especially true if she uses them for their real purpose: clarification of intent. There’s a huge difference between “We should talk,” and “We should talk. :)” If she’s using them just to clarify her intent, that’s fine. But if they’re bogging down every line she sends you on an instant messenger or punctuates every single sentence, she’s not afraid of being misunderstood. She’s paralyzed by the thought that she might be. This means that she needs you to like her, needs you to appreciate her, and needs you to see to her emotional needs. In one word? Desperate.
Very Quick Responses
If her responses are coming in hot and heavy you really have her on the hook. You can reel her in by taking things a little slower on your end. Not that you should make her wait minutes between messages. Just take your time to figure out what to say. When you have, you’ll be playing a flawless game. If she’s hanging on your every word, firing back a message loaded with emotes ten seconds after she got your message then she’s going to be playing fast and loose and giving you lots of chance to steer the conversation the way that you want it to go.
Never Has an Opinion
If this girl has a lot to say that all comes down to nothing, you know she’s desperate. She doesn’t want to disagree with you no matter what you say. She wants you to keep chatting and to like her. She loves your attention and she’s not going to risk that by engaging her brain. If she only agrees with things that you say after you say them, you’ve got a desperate woman on your hands. Or, if she escalated. If you dislike something, she hates it. If you like something, it’s the best thing that’s ever happened. She takes your opinions and feeds them back to you amplified.
You don’t want to trip and fall in a pool of crazy, but you definitely want to get with a desperate girl while you can. She’s got the need for attention that means she’s eager to please, and you don’t have to work too hard to bring out you’re A game to handle her. Watch the signs and you’ll know when you can relax and still cash in.