Nothing can sink a first date faster than saying the wrong thing. A good first date is crucial for a number of reasons. It’s your opportunity to show her that you’re funny, smart, charming, and more than a little sexy. Generally first date conversations tend to be a little awkward. This is because it’s a process of laying a foundation in terms of getting to know each other. A little awkward is a lot different from being swamped in awkward, which is why it’s important that you be able to keep conversation moving and away from hazardous topics.
One of the easiest ways you can ensure that your first date talk stays on the right path is to plan ahead. Go ahead and get yourself updated on current events. Based on what you know about her interests, try to think up some interesting questions you could ask her. Stay away from the boring, traditional questions. Come up with creative inquiries to make conversations she’s probably already had with other men far more fun and interesting.
Controlling the Conversation
Avoiding conversational pitfalls isn’t hard. You just have to be willing to be the one to steer your discussions in the right direction. An obvious thing to stay away from is any topic that is controversial. Even if you have a strong and passionate opinion about a certain topic it’s better to save that for another time when you’re both more comfortable with each other. You might think that injecting a little feistiness into the conversation will liven things up a little and you’re right. However, controversial liveliness is likely to descend into confrontation and feelings of ill will. Neither of those are conducive to you getting a second date.
Nothing is going to turn a lady off than a guy who doesn’t listen to a word she says all night long. If you want to spark genuinely interesting banter between the two of you, you need to pay attention to what she’s saying. Keep track of names and places she mentions. Bring them up later in a casual way by inviting her to tell you more or drawing comparisons or similarities between the two of you. It’s also a good idea to pay full attention to what she’s saying because chances are she may quiz you later to see if you’re as in to her as you’re letting on. And if you want to go any further with her you’ll need to have those answers.
Choose a Setting
If you’re really looking forward to getting to know her more you’ll want to choose a first date setting that is conducive to conversation. Taking her to a popular bar on a Saturday night for example is going to either dampen all talk or hinder it severely. If talking is what you want, try to pick a restaurant that’s got a quiet, peaceful atmosphere. If you call ahead and make reservations you can request a table that’s a little secluded and out of the way, ensuring that you don’t have to raise your voices over those of other patrons in order to be heard.