Considering how hard it can be to land a date in the first place, it might seem counter-intuitive to contemplate ways to ditch a date, but the truth is sometimes things just don’t work out in a major way. It might be a date where there’s no physical attraction at all – maybe she used an old photo of herself to lie about her looks or body type. Or maybe she misled you about her personality when you were getting to know her online, and in person she’s getting on your last nerve. Either way, you don’t want to waste any more of your time with her, when you could be looking for a girl who actually comes close to what you’re looking for. Some chicks can handle a straightforward “This isn’t going to work out, sorry.” Others can’t, and will not hesitate to make a scene if you dump her. If it looks like you’re dealing with the latter, what you need is a plan to exit your disastrous date.
Create an Emergency
This is a tried and true method because it works. Get to the restroom, call a friend and have him call your phone in 15 minutes. When you get the call, pretend it’s your boss, parent, kid’s teacher – whatever will give you a plausible excuse to make your exit. If you can’t get ahold of a friend, try recruiting a waiter, or even stranger, who seems that he might be sympathetic. The key to making this work is to look genuinely regretful when you take the ’emergency’ call. Act like you’re pushing back against having to end the date. Let a little anger or irritation come out in your voice.
The disadvantage to this method is that a lot of people know about it because it works so well. If your date has half a brain, it’s possible that she might become suspicious. If she does accuse you of ditching her and makes a scene about it, well, at least you tried and now you know she would have probably been insecure dating you anyway.
Find an Excuse to Leave, Then Ditch Her
This one is a little trickier. It involves coming up with an excuse to leave her alone for long enough so that you can quietly slip away. It’s not as easy as you might think, and it becomes harder if your date is taking place where all the exits are in one location and clearly visible, for example, a restaurant. There’s a reason why people in movies ditch restaurant dates by climbing out the bathroom window; this is the only real way to do it.
This strategy gets even more problematic if you have factors to consider like the car you shared to get to your date. Unless you’re fine with physically stranding her on the scene, or with a restaurant bill, you may have to either come clean that you want to end the date, or suffer through to the end.