Approaching a girl for the first time can put you in an awkward position. Unless you’re suave and collected 24/7, encountering a gorgeous woman can really take a toll on your conversational abilities. The same goes for a first date – you need to be able to say something that can break the ice and catch her interest. Music is a topic that’s universally comfortable. Even if she’s not a huge music fan, chances are better than good that there are some bands or artists or songs she really likes. What better way to get her talking and get her interested than by asking about music?
It’s How You Ask
Obviously, sauntering up to her and demanding to know what kind of music she listens to right off the bat isn’t going to endear you to her. Use the topic of music as an icebreaker, which is to say you introduce yourself and let her do the same. Don’t blurt out a bland question asking her what type of music she likes. Instead find a more interesting route to bring up the topic. Be innovative with your questions and try to avoid the same old inquiries that she’s probably been subject to many times before.
The Good Old Days
A safe bet when it comes to music is to ask about the kind of music she listened to when she was in high school or college. A lot of women relate certain songs to certain events in their lives. These songs in turn can revive old fun memories. If you’re not sure how she’ll react to this question, bring up your own song memories first. Tell her what was happening when the song was playing to make it so memorable. If possible, opt for an amusing, entertaining anecdote over one that’s sad. Telling her why a certain song makes you sad because it reminds you of the first breakup you ever had is not a good idea.
If you’re a fan of classic rock and you get the vibe that she might be too, sound her out. Bring up Led Zeppelin, The Who, Pink Floyd, or David Bowie. Pick songs that have weathered the decades well and have become popular anthems despite the age gap (a good example is Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen). If she’s also into classic rock, the two of you should be able to strike up some conversation based on your mutual interest.
Another safe bet is to bring up artists that are popular in the current music scene. Bring up some of your favourites and then ask for some of hers. Even if you like different genres, you can still appreciate and make commentary on what she likes and vice-versa. You can also start talking about the artists themselves and what you like or don’t like about them.
Music isn’t restricted to what you hear on TV, Internet, or radio. Maybe you play drums. Maybe she plays piano. If you’ve got talent with an instrument or with your voice, casually mention that interest. If she’s got similar talents she’ll probably respond in kind, opening the door for more conversation.