First dates can be absolutely terrifying. If you have been online dating or if you’re on a blind date, you’re likely meeting your date for the first time in person. If you’ve been friends with your date for a while, you’re trying to figure out how to break out of the platonic friendship and become more intimate. Either way, there are a lot of reasons why you may be feeling anxious about your first date. Being anxious makes you much more likely to make a serious mistake that could lead to the end of the date or the end of the possible relationship. Knowing what you need to look out for will make you much less likely to commit any of these mistakes.
Making it Too Serious
Making a first date seem like a really big deal is a quick and easy way to make things uncomfortable for all parties involved, so you should never do it. First dates are usually supposed to be casual affairs, so try to be as relaxed as possible and make it fun. You’re not going to a job interview, and this isn’t going to be the end of the world if it does not go well. If you treat a date too seriously, you risk making her uncomfortable and making her feel pressured to act the same. Try to treat your first date with an air of casual interest, and try to do things that are fun for both of you instead of picking a stuffy, formal location. After all, you’re probably just getting to know each other, so you should strive to make things seem as normal as possible to avoid setting unrealistic expectations for either of you.
Getting Distracted By Other Things
Nothing is ruder than getting distracted and texting someone on your phone on a date. Doing this later down the line may be acceptable if it’s an emergency, but this is a serious faux pas for your first date. Make sure to keep your phone on silent and put it away so that you aren’t tempted to check your email, texts, or clock. Any of these things is a surefire way of making a woman think you are not interested in her, and you can practically guarantee you won’t be getting a second date.
Getting Too Attached Too Quickly
This may not seem like something guys will generally have an issue with, but you might be surprised. You should avoid discussing the future on your first date unless you want to make it seem like you’re being overly enthusiastic about your dating relationship. You should also avoid thinking about her as your girlfriend after having had one date, unless she explicitly states that you’re dating and you are her boyfriend. Deciding that you’re in a committed dating relationship too quickly can be a serious deal breaker for some women, who may not want to feel tied down to a dating relationship until the second or third dates.